How To Make Someone Feel Special
I guess you can say you’re a pretty nice person if you actually clicked on this and wanting to know how to make someone feel special. Or you probably messed up somewhere and you kinda regret that so now you’re trying to make it up to them. But either way, sometimes it feels good when you help others and truly acknowledge them. It lifts up your mood and makes you feel great about yourself. And deep down inside, if you are watching this, you probably have a good heart. Thumbs up if you agree. So, here’s 10 ways on how to make someone feel special.
1. Pay attention to them
When they are talking, listen to them. Look them directly into their eyes and give them some signals that you’re still paying attention. Take mental notes of what they are saying and ask questions that are relevant to the conversation. Make it about them and not about you. Also, recognize when they are feeling down or happy. If you have empathy, this should be easy to help you understand a person. In addition, compliment them when you notice they are wearing something different like a new pair of pants. Or compliment them on their achievement or skill. Or praise them for a job well done even when the task might be small. Take notes of the small things that they do. When you do this, they’ll feel appreciative and you notice it enough to care about them.
2. Give generously to them
Give them your honest opinion and feedback. Give them an opportunity to showcase their strengths. Give them credit for what they’ve done right. Give them advice when they need it. Give them the benefit of the doubt and not just assume things. And give them your time. These are just a few examples of giving. Give when you can and be generous about it. It’ll make them happy and feel special on the inside.
3. Be affectionate towards them
This element probably only pertains to those who are about to get in a relationship or is already in one. This is a must if you’re already in a relationship. But also, it depends on their personality. Some people just don’t like being touch. But for those who do, hug and hold them longer than usual when they are feeling down or sad. Hold their hands to signal that you want to be there with them. Cuddle with your partner to show them you want to be close to them. Give them actual kisses instead of air kisses to let them know that what you both have together is real. Be playful to let them know that you are interested in them. If you give them your attention, you’ll definitely make them feel special.
4. Share with them
This requires you to open up to them. Share your feelings, fears, dreams, warm memories or even secrets with them. Doing so will make them feel special because you’re opening up to them. Remember a time when you were hanging out with someone and someone told you a secret or share something that they’ve never told anyone about. How did that make you feel? Special, right? Because it’s something that not a lot of people know and they were willing to open up and share with you. It creates a sense of trust and that you value them.
5. Hang out together
Spend some quality time together and bond with them. When you invite someone to an event or just to hang out, they’ll truly appreciate it because they’ll feel that you care about them. So, ask them to sit near you if you’re on a lunch break, include them in a group show to let them know they are part of the gang, or devote some time to celebrate their success or achievement together. Doing so will make them feel warm and special on the inside.
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6. Keep in touch with them
Nowadays it’s so easy to stay in touch with people. You can easily text or call someone across the country practically for free. So, there’s no excuse why you can’t do it if you are able to watch this video on a computer or on a mobile device. Ask them how they are doing and talk about what’s new in their life. If they have social media accounts, pay attention to it and make a comment on their post or the trips they’ve been on. But be careful of not to overdo it. Perhaps the next time when you guys do hangout bring up the last trip they’ve been on and talk about it. Most importantly if you ever make plans with someone, follow through with it and don’t be a flake.
7. Actions speak louder than words
Sometimes your actions can really go a long way in terms of showing someone how special they are. If you make a promise, fulfill it. You don’t want to be seen as an untrustworthy individual. If you can, surprise them with food or some homemade cookies. In my opinion, I just like food and if someone brings me takeout, it just makes me feel warm and fuzzy on the inside. Or perhaps that’s how my stomach is feeling at the moment. So, try doing some simple favors for them when they are least expecting it.
8. Be thoughtful
As stated earlier, paying attention is important. It will only help you in the long run. If you are thinking about giving a gift, take notes of what they like and dislike so you can come up with a unique just-for-you gift when the day comes. If you are thinking about going on a date, take them to somewhere special. It doesn’t have to be crazy expensive and fancy. It could be as simple as going on a picnic, to their favorite restaurant, or sporting event. But if that person is bougie or high class, then you might have a problem. If you are creative, you can even throw them a surprise party, but of course a low budget one.
9. Be there for them
Be there with them at their high points and low points in life. Many times, they will not ask you to be there but it’s comforting that there’s someone to support them when they need it. This will truly make them feel special since you are giving up your time to care for them and seeing them grow as a person. But if they do ask you to be there, don’t shy away. Be prepare to give him your full attention.
10. Be Genuine
If you are really going to make someone feel special, you should do it from the bottom of your heart. If it’s genuine, they’ll feel it. The compliments that you say or the cookies that you bake will feel more authentic. It shouts out, “Hey you are really special and I want you to know that.” Also, appreciate what they do for you. Say “thank you,” or “I really appreciate it,” or “I love you,” when it’s necessary. By doing so, you acknowledge what they’ve done for you and you value the relationship that you both have going on for each other whether it’s platonic or not.
So, I hope this helps and hope you found at least one point to be valuable.