Cheaters are no good, dirty, rotten, son-of-a-gun, shameless shells of human beings! Woah, woah, woah. Ok, let’s take it down a notch. Is cheating wrong? Absolutely. Once a cheater always a cheater? Depends on the person. The details of a scenario matter when deciding the character of a cheater, but some things always ring true. So, what does cheating say about a person? Here are 10 things we know.
1. They don’t know what they want.
A cheater has a relationship and routine in place, but they choose to risk it all or even destroy it by breaking the rules. This kind of person doesn’t know what they truly want. The relationship they chose is not doing enough for them, but they also don’t dare to end it and go start a new one. This person is still figuring out what they want in both a partner and in life, which isn’t fair to their current relationship.
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2. They put themselves first.
Cheating is selfish. There is no way around it. Even if your partner sucks and is the worst boyfriend or girlfriend in the world, there is no reason why you shouldn’t break up with them first before getting involved with someone new. Cheaters are egotistical. Maybe not forever, but definitely in this time of their lives. Do you want an egotistical partner? Didn’t think so.
3. They need to be single.
How does one figure out what they want and live selfishly without hurting a partner? Easy, you don’t have one! Cheaters need to be single, especially if they’ve cheated multiple times. They obviously want the thrill of new romances and adrenaline, and this is not something found daily in stable and dependable relationships. They might get it out of their system over a few months or even years of being single and mingling, but don’t forget that old habits die hard.
4. They have low self-control.
Cheaters tend to be impulsive. Most don’t go out planning to cheat on their partners. It’s something that happens in a moment of weakness, passion, or all of the above. They might not even seek it out, but if someone hits on them they are suddenly weak and fall into the cheating trap. Don’t get me wrong though – you can’t be tricked into cheating, so they still consciously decided to do it, no matter who they hurt in the process.
5. They are emotionally immature.
Emotional maturity means you control and express your emotions in a very communicative and productive way. What does this mean in the day-to-day? Well, if you’re upset, you talk about it. You don’t blame or insult or criticize, but you speak about it to try and find solutions. You’re also a good listener and don’t take everything personally. A cheater is the opposite of this. If there’s a problem in your relationship, they’re going to look elsewhere to fix it or confront you aggressively instead of respectfully. They’ll blame you for their poor decisions and use silly arguments to defend their cheating ways. Talk about being emotionally manipulative.
6. They lack respect.
If you cheat on someone, you don’t respect them. At least not during the acts. If you cheat, you’re placing your worth above your partners, and that’s just messed up. Without respect, relationships are dirt. Not much more to add there.
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7. Their judgment is easily clouded.
Some cheaters are naïve. They may be intelligent at work or school, but socially their decisions are easily influenced. You know the type. They might say they don’t agree with some movement, but if enough of their friends do, they hop on the bandwagon. The same thing happens when this person runs into a new guy or girl who is suddenly convincing them that they’re wasting their time with their partner.
8. They are unsatisfied with their life.
A person in a fulfilling relationship who is happy with their life will not try to destroy it. Quite the opposite actually – they will fortify it and try to help keep it growing while being appreciative of what they have. Cheaters seek out other people to find the fulfillment they are lacking internally… unfortunately those new people only fill the void temporarily, and soon the cheater will be right back where they started.
9. They’re ok with lying.
You can’t cheat if you don’t lie. Few cheaters commit the act and then confess to everything a second later. Even if it’s only once, if a cheater starts to lie they are showing that they’re ok with it. What else will they lie about? Money? Their future kids? Their job? Welcome to a lifetime of doubt.
10. They have poor decision-making skills.
As we’ve mentioned, cheaters don’t think things through. These impulsive decisions could end up costing them big time – and this isn’t limited to relationships. If they risk the person who is supposedly the most important to them, who’s to say their poor decisions won’t risk other things like their work, home, or future?
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Conclusion:
Cheating says a lot about a person, and none of it is positive; however, we do have to remember that everyone is human. Good people make mistakes too, and every situation is different. Only you and time will tell if a cheater can also show their fair share of positive changes and qualities. Do you think cheaters can change? Share your thoughts in the comments!