Everyone always talks about the warm and fuzzy side of when you fall for someone. It’s all butterflies and rainbows and googly-eyes, right? Well, not always. Sometimes, you’ll find a person who doesn’t want to feel those things. They fight off any romantic feelings as if they were fighting off a swarm of attacking bees. This could be for many reasons, but when someone tries fighting their feelings, it’s a process that is obvious to others. He might fight off most of the love-bees low-key, but there are some signs that he’ll reveal to you that’s he’s doing so. So, let’s take a look at these 10 signs he is fighting his feelings for you.
1. His work starts slipping.
When someone fights so hard against their feelings, it’s a constant mental battle that takes up energy otherwise spent on other things. Whether he has a job or is your average student in school, a sign that he’s fighting his feelings would be a drastic change in his performance. Maybe he’s suddenly late to work, or doing horrible in class. Granted these signs could be for other personal issues as well, but let’s see if we can stack more signs together.
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2. He starts asking other people for advice.
Guys are big advocates for figuring out things on their own. Have you ever heard that century-long joke of the man who refuses to ask for directions? They’ll do everything they physically can before they resort to asking for help. When this guy starts asking other people for advice about how to handle his feelings, he is definitely feeling it. If you’re lucky, you’ll hear it from others about who he asked, so you can gain some insight as to why he’s fighting his feelings in the first place.
3. He’s hot and then cold if you flirt with him.
One day he’s returning the tease as if you two were meant to be. The next day he might as well be the stranger who never makes eye contact. You can never really tell which mood you’ll get, and that’s because he simply doesn’t know until the moment. He either controls his flirty feelings, or he can’t and they roam free.
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4. He remembers a lot about you.
You’ll notice in small comments or actions that this guy seems to remember a lot about you. He offered you your favorite drink, or he told you not to eat the party cake since you have a nut allergy. He won’t even notice that he’s making these comments because they are so ingrained in his repeating thoughts about you. Now that’s someone with feelings.
5. He makes sure you see him talking to other girls.
Since he’s trying to fight his feelings for you, he is going to do all he can so that you don’t realize that it’s happening. This is why it seems like he has no shame speaking to or even flirting with other girls in front of you. While it may be a defense mechanism, be careful of guys who do this. It could also just mean they are players.
6. He lets sweet gestures slip through the cracks.
If he’s fighting his feelings, he is putting on a charade of nonchalance. The thing is, a person can only put on a show for so long. Eventually, your true colors slip through the cracks, and that’s exactly what happens when this guy slips up and does something overly-sweet for you. Of course, this is followed by instant embarrassment on his part afterward. And you’ll know when this does happen.
7. His personality seems to switch every day.
One day he’s prince charming, the next he’s Mr. Nice Guy, the following he is a business professional with no interest in chit chat. These changes in mood and behavior are to be expected when someone can’t decide if their head or their heart should lead the show. And that could be pretty cold sometimes.
8. He gets confident around you if he’s with friends.
Guys like to run in packs, kind of like packs of wolves. There is always this male competition of who is the manliest or the funniest or the coolest, especially if there are females around. If the guys are around, you’ll see his confidence spark up, since, to him, it’s an appropriate excuse to show-off around you.
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9. He always tries to justify himself to you.
Since this guy is in a constant battle in his own head, he’ll be justifying himself to everyone he can, including himself. He really doesn’t know what’s going on, but he definitely doesn’t want to be judged for it, so he’ll try to find excuses for his on and off behaviors.
10. He mentions you a lot in front of others.
While he might keep his cool around you, he can’t help but talk about you when you aren’t around. This is because you’re always on his mind, and mentioning you is as easy as mentioning your favorite meme page. It’s tough when he doesn’t know what to say with you, but with other people, it’s okay.
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Conclusion:
Overall, if you know a guy who seems to have a majority of these signs that he is fighting his feelings for you, you have a few options of how to respond. You can try to “up” your flirting and talking game to see if he falls for you, or, you can try to have a blunt conversation about where his head is at. Then see how he responds. So there you have it 10 signs he is fighting his feelings for you.