There is plenty of fish in the sea, but not all of those fish can be your friend or romantic partner. Some are flaky, nasty, or just plain stinky. If you can learn which guys in the sea you want to avoid, it’ll be that much easier to find the boyfriend or friend you’re looking for. While compatibility depends on the person, there are some overarching types of guys everyone should steer clear of. So here are 8 types of guys you should avoid. Hopefully, they haven’t snuck their way into your life.
1. The lazy guys.
Laziness is when this guy prefers to scroll through his feed than to take out the garbage that has been reeking for three days. It’s when he has deadlines to meet but he prefers to sleep ten hours. Sometimes chillin’ on your couch on a Sunday afternoon is a necessity, but there’s a big difference between winding down from work and being lazy. The thing with laziness is that it’s contagious. Pulling someone down is easier than pulling someone up, and that’s exactly what happens when you stick with a lazy person. They’re way more likely to make YOU lazier than to change, so it’s best to avoid them altogether if you can.
2. The players.
You may think that this is only the type of guy to avoid if you’re looking to date someone, but players as friends don’t have the best track record either. Players look out for themselves and themselves only. They don’t care who they hurt in the process of their romantic conquests and this behavior can easily transfer over into friendships. Not only that, but do you really want to put your sister, cousin, friend, or even mom at risk by having this guy around? So yeah.
Check out: 10 Warning signs of a player
3. The closed-minded guys.
It’s the 21st century and we have more access to data than ever before. Smart people use this resource to expand their knowledge and grow. Closed-minded guys will argue against the earth being round because they are too hard-headed to open a book. Half of your conversations will end up hitting a brick wall with a closed-minded guy and you will definitely never grow as a person. If he’s closed-minded, he’s probably not getting far.
4. The mama’s boys.
Ah, the good ol’ mama’s boy. This guy has two faults, and they’re big ones. First, he needs his mom’s help or approval for all decisions, big or small. She is there to guide him professionally, personally, and financially. It’s almost like dealing with a ten-year-old trapped in an adult body. Second, mama is always watching like a big brother. She’ll know the boy’s every move and action. If you’re in his life, she’ll be all up in yours, and the guy will do absolutely nothing about it. If you know, you know.
5. The “IDK” guys.
The I-don’t-know guys have no direction in life. They might work, but they don’t care about what they’re doing or where they’re going professionally. If they’re studying, they’re probably doing it because someone pressured them into it, and they pass their classes but just barely. They rarely have any interests and they haven’t written down a goal in their life. Their common phrase is, “whatever happens, happens.” If you’re looking for a guy who just doesn’t care and doesn’t have a goal, you’ve found a match. If you’re looking for a friend or partner to live life with, then you might need to keep looking.
6. The controlling guys.
There are three instances in life where you’re probably under control: as a child under your parents, as an adult under laws, and if you go to jail under a prison guard. Everything else is in your hands, or at least it should be. Controlling guys never got this memo, so they’ll do everything they can to control not only their lives but those of the people they know. This power struggle can come off subtly at first, but you’ll soon notice that this guy is making all of your plans, pressuring you to cancel others, and forcing you to do things that you might not be interested in. As a friend, a controlling guy will rarely compromise when it comes to activities. As a boyfriend, he’ll act more like an assertive father rather than a romantic partner. This is a huge red flag. When you see Kim Jong-un, I mean a controlling guy, it’s probably a good idea to turn the other direction.
Check out: 15 Small things that’ll ruin a relationship
7. The one-hobby guys.
One-hobby guys revolve their entire life around one thing. Let’s use football as an example. This guy watches every game and owns all apparel from their favorite team. You’ve never seen him more excited or more nervous than when he creates his fantasy team with the boys. When he isn’t watching the game alone or with friends, he’s reading up on football sports news or betting on the next championship. This guy would probably huff and puff about attending your party if it just so happens to fall on football Sunday. It’s not that he’s bad or anything, it’s just that if you don’t have the same interest as him, it’s going to be really hard to communicate with him. And if he doesn’t like to do anything else besides that one hobby, then that might be trouble. He is a one-hobby guy, which makes him a one-obsession guy. Not balanced and probably not a good fit for everyone.
8. The self-centered guys.
Unless you always want to feel inferior, avoid the self-centered guys whenever possible. These guys are easily noticed because they look like they took three hours in the morning to get ready. Externally, they look great. Internally, they are selfish– only caring about themselves. It’s all about their needs and wants and if it doesn’t benefit them, they won’t bother to help others. Sometimes you’ll notice them being a know-it-all. Their cockiness will just spill out and it’s hard even to talk to them. For these guys, it’s just better not to mingle with them.
Check out: Girls you want to avoid (8 Types)
Conclusion:
I know I’m missing a lot more other characteristics of guys you want to avoid. The main thing about this is that, if you don’t feel comfortable or just not vibing with the guy, then it’s your sign to just stay away. You’re not obligated to stay with them. These guys will just drain the energy out of your life. Anyway, hope this helps. So there you have it 8 types of guys you want to avoid.