How To Talk To A Girl Online
So real life talking is not working out and you’re coming to the internet for help. Okay, I see. I respect that. I hide behind a screen too. So that makes… 3 of use? But first things first, you need to identify your objective. What do you want to achieve? Are you just trying to get more friends? Are you trying to have a female gaming partner, or do you want get in a relationship with her? Just remember that everyone is different. You’re probably not going to get the girl on your first try and it’s okay. Remember that I’m always here. I wouldn’t ghost you like how she ghost you. And If you leave a comment, most of the time, I would reply back. I bet she doesn’t do that to you. Anyway, here’s how to talk to a girl online.
1. Don’t spam her
In the beginning, limit yourself to one message at a time. This way you don’t come out as too needy or just wanting attention. You have to understand that she has a life too. Be patient and don’t expect an instant response. She could be messaging 69 guys at once and you’re like 42 in line. So, hold your horses and wait until it’s your turn.
2. Ask open-ended questions
Have you wonder why your conversations with the girls are dying? It’s probably because you’re asking yes or no questions. Open-ended questions encourage her to be more engaging in the conversation. Find common interest by stalking, I mean researching her online profile. So instead of saying “Do you like shopping at the dollar store?” A better version of that is, “If you had $5 to spend at the dollar store, what would you buy and why?” You already know that I don’t even make enough to take her to Gucci Store.
3. Think before you say anything
You’re online looking at a screen so you have time to think and reply back. The girl doesn’t know that you’re actually planning out what you were about to say. Same goes with my videos. I may be reading a script or I may not be. I guess you’ll never know. But low-key I do. So, take time and think about what you want to say or talk about. If you have a plan in mind, everything will just seem to flow naturally. Then one day, you probably don’t need a plan and just free style it.
4. Don’t tell an online girl that they are “sexy,” “beautiful,” “hot.” Etc.
That could come out as being too shallow. Statistically speaking, girls tend to response less to those messages. Some girls are just annoyed with that stuff. Plus, you could come out as a creepier. That’s one way on how to not talk to a girl online.
5. Be respectful
Yes, you’re talking to someone online for crying out loud. They also have feelings too. Unless you’re being catfish. If you just want a pen pal online, then be plain as a vanilla ice cream. If you’re seeking a player 2 to game with, then you better be a try hard in the game and be willing to catch a grenade for her and also be willing to take a L. And if you are seeking a relationship. Don’t go showing your hot dog to her online. Keep it inside the package, wrapped and tucked away.
6. Don’t try to be cocky
Your arrogance is not going to get your far. So, say “sorry” when it’s necessary. Be a little vulnerable so the girl on the other side of the screen can feel your sincerity and doesn’t feel intimidate or threaten by your words. Don’t say you have a million subscriber when in reality you only have about a couple thousand.
7. Tease her
I know I talk about teasing a lot whether it’s in person or online. Sometimes I have to repeat myself 7 times to get it in people’s head. And if you are really trying to get a date out of this, you need to make her laugh, flirt with her, use emojis and be playful to make yourself more appealing. Sometimes an emotional response is a good way to start a conversation.
8. Be Positive
If you start off as a negative Nancy you’re not going to get far. You’re talking to a girl online and if you come off being negative, they’ll just ghost you. Girls generally are attracted to those who are positive and happy. Be enthusiastic about her and try to get to know her better.
9. Watch out how you text
Are you one of those who are always texting “u” or “ur” and using acronyms most of the time? If so, try to reduce that. Sometimes people don’t get the acronyms. Use correct grammar and check if there are any typos. You know how people say that first impression is important. They’re not wrong. You might get laid because you know how to use the right “your” and “you’re” in a sentence. Who knows.
10. Execute your ultimate action.
Remember in the beginning I told you to identify your objective. Now since you already warmed up with her and you guys are conversing, now it’s time to finally harvest the fruits of your labor. Did you want a new companion in Call of Duty? Well, get her username. Did you want a relationship with her? Well, ask for her phone number and start hanging out together. Or did you just want to be friends with her? Well, then you don’t have to do much. You can just talk online. Whatever floats your boat. So that’s 10 ways on how to talk to a girl online.
Since we’re on this topic, let me tell you a quick story. So, I met this girl online on Facebook. We have a few mutual friends together and she friend requested me. She was cute by the way and I couldn’t say no. So, I added her. If someone adds me, I’m always nice and friendly making small talk here and there. Turns out we had a class together. Even better, right? Our lecture halls could get pretty big, somewhere around 300-400 students. Anyway, we chatted online for a week. Then we started to be seatmate. I already thought she was going to be my soulmate. Funny thing is that my friend always sits next to me. So, I introduce her to my friend. The next thing you know, she became a really good friend with my friend and she starts sitting next to him more often. It turned out that she was just getting to me to get to my friend because he didn’t have a Facebook. That’s why… Yeah, I just got used like a tissue paper (cries)… But jokes on them I got an A in the class.