Every girl may be different, but most of us share some common ground when it comes to talking with someone new. The best ways to start a conversation with a girl are pretty simple, and they could work to start a conversation with almost anyone. There are 5 ways to choose from, meaning you get a bit of flexibility when it comes to using the communication style you like best. Let’s get to it!
1. Ask her something.
One of the easiest and most effective ways to start a conversation with a girl is to ask her something generic and not personal. One of my closest friends in college, John, used this tactic the first time we ever spoke. We were sitting on the same bench in a park in New York City when a very strange man started doing a little dance near us. He wasn’t a performer or anything so it was really weird, but John used the opportunity after the man left to ask me if I had seen what he did. This led to a light-hearted and funny conversation about the strange happenings of New York City and a friendship that lasted many years afterward.
If you don’t see anything weird going on, you could ask her if she knows of any coffee shops or gas stations nearby or if she has the time. I suggest trying to stick with open-ended questions that will get her talking, like one where you ask for her advice or a suggestion.
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2. Act confused.
Unfortunately, our current world usually sees men as threats and women as victims. Sometimes just having a man come up to you can seem threatening, even if he doesn’t mean any harm. Throw a confused look on the guy’s face, though, and suddenly he seems like the helpless one, opening the door to more conversation. While you may have to use a little fib to get the ball rolling, act lost and ask this girl for directions. She’ll be able to help you out while also seeing you as harmless. You could also act confused by asking her if you two know each other, then name some random holiday party at so-and-so’s house from last year. Of course, she wouldn’t have been at this party, but you’ve just broken the ice and can now apologize for the mix-up and introduce yourself.
3. Use things you have in common.
Finding common ground is one of the main ways to build a bridge into friendship. After all, we are much more likely to talk to someone we have something in common with because it facilitates conversation. If her shirt is advertising a series you love, mention it. If she’s rocking a style or brand that you’re into, start with that. And if she’s sipping a Starbucks drink and you love Starb’s, ask her where she got it or what seasonal coffee she recommends. Is she walking her dog? Do you like dogs? There you go, you have an in. Anything in common works.
I kid you not, I was once sitting outside, slightly shivering from the cold, and a guy next to me said, “You look like you hate winter and I have to agree.” Whether my shivering had anything to do with my seasonal preferences is another story, but his comment was humorous and paved the way for a nice conversation.
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4. Give her an unexpected compliment.
Let me tell it to you straight by saying that 95% of the time no girl wants to feel objectified by being complimented on her looks by a random guy. It’s one thing for another woman to tell us they love our outfit that day but it’s always slightly more uncomfortable when it comes from a man. Especially if he tries to tell us to smile more – don’t do that.
So, how can you compliment a girl to start a conversation without sounding like you’re just another dude trying to get her number? Easy, you go for the unexpected compliment. Avoid commenting on her looks in general if you can. Your best bet is to instead compliment her on something extremely specific, like saying she has awesome curls, very bright eyes, walks with confidence, has cool boots on, or things like that. Once someone told me that I oozed positive energy. It took me by surprise in a good way, and you can’t really be standoffish after someone tells you that!
5. Break the ice with a joke.
This strategy should be saved for either the funny guys out there or the ones who have one good joke up their sleeve. The good thing is you’ll quickly be able to figure out if her sense of humor matches yours off the bat. You could simply go up to her and start your joke or precede it by telling her, “Let me know if you get this and on a scale of 1-10, what do you think about it?” Most girls will take the bait and listen and, since you’ve asked a question, they’ll be inclined to answer you. Try it out, it works every time.
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Conclusion:
Now that you’ve got 5 slick ways up your sleeve to start a conversation with a girl, which one suits you best? Let me know in the comments and I would also love to hear about how your first attempt goes. So there you have it 5 best ways to start a conversation with a girl.