When we hear the word “attraction”, we tend to picture someone we find beautiful or handsome. Maybe you think of a celebrity or your crush. Oddly enough, we rarely think of internal qualities, like personality traits or inner characteristics. I say oddly because, without this inner, emotional attraction, outer attraction doesn’t mean squat. A hot person with a crappy personality might as well be gum on the sidewalk. Emotional attraction is what we feel, and what we need to really connect with someone. This is essential in building real and strong relationships, romantic or not. If you want this connection with a certain someone, first lookout for these 10 signs someone is emotionally attracted to you.
1. They confide in you.
The most common way to confide in someone is through telling them a secret. A person will only tell you a secret if they trust you. If they trust you, there must be some basis as to why. This could be a whole other video about how to be trustworthy, but it all comes down to how someone connects with you emotionally. If they’re emotionally attracted to you, they’re much more likely to confide in you.
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2. They are always excited to spend time with you.
If this person seems genuinely happy to see you at any time, they definitely don’t think you stink. It isn’t just that they think you’re pretty and want to stare at you – that would be creepy. It’s that people enjoy spending time with people they feel in tune with. If you both always seem to be on the same page about things, there is definitely some emotional attraction in the mix!
3. You feel like they “get you”.
Have you ever looked at someone and they instantly knew what you were going to say? Or maybe they say, out loud, exactly what you were thinking. These are instances when you just “get” each other, and this is based on the fact that your emotions are one and the same.
4. They tell you they’ve been thinking about you.
Do you owe this person money? Have you been talking behind their back? Did you bully their little sister in high school? If the answer to all of these is no, then they’re probably thinking about you in a positive way. This is because they are dwelling on moments with you or on things about you that makes them happier, and this is another sign of emotional attraction.
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5. They respect your space.
While attraction will make anyone want to be with you all the time, someone who is emotionally attracted to you will have enough respect to set boundaries. They understand and appreciate the way that you are, and that comes with respecting your personal space and alone-time, too. It might not seem like it at first, but once you get to know them, you’ll realize that they are pretty respectful too.
6. You have long, consistent conversations together.
A huge, easy hint to tell that someone is emotionally attracted to you, is when you two can have long conversations together easily. I don’t mean long as in “fifteen-minutes-long”, I mean like, “hours on end, talking into the night, being shocked that so much time has gone by.”
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7. You both share the same values.
A big part about getting along with someone, especially for a potential long-term relationship, is that you two share the same values. These are the basic rules by which you live your lives; your moral compass, if you will. If you share this with someone, it’s an instant emotional connection.
8. They gush over your qualities.
Hearing compliments about yourself is nice, but hearing compliments about your inner self is truly satisfying. A person who is emotionally attracted to you will be spreading compliments about you far and wide, both to you and in front of others. The best part is that these will be about your abilities, personal nature, and goals! And that’s what’s emotional about it.
9. You never get sick of each other.
With all of the compatibility between the two of you, from always being on the same page, to having continuous, exciting conversations, it’s no wonder that you seem to never get sick of each other. Remember that emotional attraction can be for BFFs just as much as it can be for romantic partners, but the bottom line is that you’ll never be tired of each other!
10. They value your opinions.
No one is going to be your EXACT twin unless you have a twin, but even if you don’t see eye to eye with this person about something, they’ll never try to change your stance. Your opinions are valued in their eyes, and this happens because they hold you in high esteem!
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Conclusion:
So, there you have it, 10 signs someone is emotionally attracted to you. Now, again, this does NOT automatically mean that they’re interested in you romantically. You need emotional attraction to have a successful relationship, but you don’t need a successful relationship to have an emotional attraction. We share emotional attraction with many people who we admire or hold dear in our lives in a non-romantic way. This is essentially how best friends are made! However, if this person also seems to admire your physical side in combination with your emotional side, then you just might be heading towards love-land. It’s important to always ask and hear how they’re feeling before you assume, though. So there you have it, 10 signs someone is emotionally attracted to you.
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